Who Does What How My New Wife And I Figured Out How to Divvy Up Our Chores

Who Does What How My New Wife And I Figured Out How to Divvy Up Our Chores For most of human history, the who does what of housework was pretty clearly spelled out, with gender determining each freunds specific role and contributions. Thankfully, thats (mostly) no longer the world we live in, but theres still no rule book for helping freunds figure out how to divvy up household chores the physical, mental,andemotional ones in a way thats ritterlich and equitable.So, what does the division of household chores for modern couples look like, really? In FGBs Who Does What series, we asked couples to complete an exercise in order to share with us the amount and nature of housework they actually do, and how they decided to divvy it all up.--Name Scott ChurchsonLocation Lodi, NJRelationship status Married since 10/17What type of home (e.g, condo, house) do you have? HouseDo you have any kids or pets? One 3-legged, asthmatic cat--How long have you and your partner been together?Almost 3 yea rs, since 1/16.How long have you been living together?Almost 2 years, since 1/17What chores do you do daily, and how did you and your partner decide youd be the one to do them? Please describe.I end up emptying the garbages and cleaning/or emptying the litter packung on a daily basis and about 3-4 times a week do the dishes. It came about because she wanted to do the vacuuming and the laundry so it made sense I pick up the other chores.What chores do you do weekly and/or monthly, and how did you and your partner decide youd be the one to do them? Please describe.Weekly over the summer Ill mow and trim the grass as needed. We have a small property so Ill typically knock it out in under 20 minutes but Ive always done it and just find it to be oddly relaxing so I have no complaints. Also snow and leaves fall into my department as needed as well, but weve got the leaf blower and snow blower so its a quick job usually.How about your partner? What chores do they do daily, and how did they and/or you decide theyd do them?Cooking usually is her arena when were both home. She likes to try new recipes and see what works so Im cool with it. As long as mushrooms arent involved. -)What chores does your partner do weekly and/or monthly, and how did they and/or you decide theyd do them?Basically we had a deal that one of us would handle the dishes while the other did the laundry. Personally I would have preferred the laundry but IMO I dont believe she trusted me enough with her clothes, lol. Also vacuuming is her department as well because she finds that partieally relaxing as well, and given that I HATE vacuuming this was an easy decision.Is the way you and your partner divide tasks similar to the household you grew up in? Why or why not?My mom was a stay at home mom, so more or less she handled everything from cooking to cleaning and everything else, so its different now than when I was a kid. But both my parents felt I should learn how how to cook, clean, etc as I got old er plus I lived on my own for a few years so its not something I really forgot how to do.Whats something you and your partner could improve on when divvying up and completing household tasks? Whats something you feel youre doing well?I think at this point weve got a really good handle on who does what something I couldnt say 12-18 months ago. A lot of times well spot fix things as needed cleaning the bathroom, folding blankets, etc.Lightning Round1. Who makes the bed?Her about 75% of the time.2. When you go out to eat, who picks the restaurant and/or makes the reservation?Usually she picks, I make the reservation.3. Who makes doctors appointments? Dentist appointments?We typically handle our own.4. Who picks up the dry cleaning?Usually its me, but thankfully the dry cleaner is about 300 feet away so its an easy trip.5. Who keeps track of friends and family members birthdays?Usually her department. My only family is my parents (no siblings or cousins) and my parents actually have the same birthday so I couldnt ask for much easier here.6. Who pays bills? (Or if you divvy this up, who pays which bills?)We divvy up the bills pretty much right down the middle.7. When something in the house/apartment is broken, who makes aya it gets fixed?Id say this is pretty close to 50/50, although I think Im a bit more lax on getting things fixed unless its urgent.8. Who makes sure the tags on your cars are up-to-date?We each handle our own cars personally. I have no clue when her car is due.9. Who vacuums?Absolutely her. I hate vacuuming, lol.10. Who was the last person to dust something?Probably me. I typically will do spot cleaning as Im going through the house so if I see something that needs dusting Ill typically handle it on the spot.11. Who was the last person to clean your toilet?Sadly me, because Im usually the one who made the mess (sorry for the TMI, lol).12. Who buys groceries?Typically thats a joint venture, but some days itll be me if we just need a couple quick th ings (like today).13. Who brings in the mail?Nearly always me. Pretty sure if I didnt the mail would overflow until the mailbox fell off the hinges.14. Who irons?On the RARE occasion that happens itd be her. Just like the laundry, I dont think shed trust me enough. Ive done it though and didnt set the place on fire, so I think I deserve a shot.15. Who was the last person to clean out the fridge/pantry of expired items?She handles that usually, unless I catch something by accident.16. Youve been invited to a wedding. Who RSVPs?Totally her.17. When planning a trip, who books the flights? The hotels?Again, totally her.18. Who planned what you did last Friday night?She usually works late on Friday, so Friday night is usually couch and DVR night when she gets back.19. Who planned your last date night?I nearly always do, including this Saturday.20. You need a gift for a friends housewarming party. Who buys it?She does, the Amazon Prime account is in her name.--Interested in participating in FGBs Who Does What series? Email infofairygodboss.com with Who Does What in the subject line.